Well after many tumultuous years, the old lady and I have decided to separate. Its been a long time coming and once we got to the counseling part and given her issues with alcohol and other baggage, it was pretty much over from the start.
Packed up my stuff and was out within 14 days. Its not always easy and I do miss my kids on the days that I don't have them, but I have been under a cloud of unhappiness for such a long time. Can't begin to express how nice it is to be free again.
But then there is always drama from the old party. Now if there were no kids in the picture and like past relationships, its easy to drop someone. But Im still connected to this person for the better part of the next 15 years.
Anyone got any advice?
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Well after many tumultuous years, the old lady and I have decided to separate. Its been a long time coming and once we got to the counseling part and given her issues with alcohol and other baggage, it was pretty much over from the start.
Packed up my stuff and was out within 14 days. Its not always easy and I do miss my kids on the days that I don't have them, but I have been under a cloud of unhappiness for such a long time. Can't begin to express how nice it is to be free again.
But then there is always drama from the old party. Now if there were no kids in the picture and like past relationships, its easy to drop someone. But Im still connected to this person for the better part of the next 15 years.
Stay civil, even if she doesn't. It does no good to be at war with your ex ...........& never bad-mouth Mom in front of your kids. They'll figure out who she really is in time.
Do yourself a favor & don't get into another relationship for a while........breath, & enjoy your freedom.
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Quote Originally Posted by bizkilla:
Anyone got any advice?
Stay civil, even if she doesn't. It does no good to be at war with your ex ...........& never bad-mouth Mom in front of your kids. They'll figure out who she really is in time.
Do yourself a favor & don't get into another relationship for a while........breath, & enjoy your freedom.
mugg, ive always respected you on this forum and that is some great advice that is all part of my game plan.
Especially the part about the relationship. I haven't enjoyed myself as much as have the past few weeks and it ain't me going to bars and being stupid. Was great to learn what an awesome support system I had. Seems like all my friends have come thru for me and offer support. Like I said, that cloud was very stormy when you're on top of your game and someone is bringing you down in almost every facet. So at this point, I'll go enjoy some hookups. There's already been one from work and she don't want anything in terms of relationship but was sweet to just have some nice rebound twat right off the bat. But as far as long term goes, I got a family, my kids, and its about time to enjoy self. like you say breath and enjoy because you never know when the next Succubus will come around and steal your manhood.
Its already been testy with the ex, I'm dealing with a functioning alcoholic here. There has already been a tirade on her part as well as advances trying to reconcile through sexual advances. I wish I could just block her out but that's not possible.
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mugg, ive always respected you on this forum and that is some great advice that is all part of my game plan.
Especially the part about the relationship. I haven't enjoyed myself as much as have the past few weeks and it ain't me going to bars and being stupid. Was great to learn what an awesome support system I had. Seems like all my friends have come thru for me and offer support. Like I said, that cloud was very stormy when you're on top of your game and someone is bringing you down in almost every facet. So at this point, I'll go enjoy some hookups. There's already been one from work and she don't want anything in terms of relationship but was sweet to just have some nice rebound twat right off the bat. But as far as long term goes, I got a family, my kids, and its about time to enjoy self. like you say breath and enjoy because you never know when the next Succubus will come around and steal your manhood.
Its already been testy with the ex, I'm dealing with a functioning alcoholic here. There has already been a tirade on her part as well as advances trying to reconcile through sexual advances. I wish I could just block her out but that's not possible.
Thanks man they sure are. There have been some highs and admittedly some lows during this process. But life is way too short to be wasting it on those that cant help themselves and are on verge of imploding. I've kept this alive for quite some time knowing it wouldn't work. Lived unhealthy during this time.
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Thanks man they sure are. There have been some highs and admittedly some lows during this process. But life is way too short to be wasting it on those that cant help themselves and are on verge of imploding. I've kept this alive for quite some time knowing it wouldn't work. Lived unhealthy during this time.
I aleadry have skip. Choosing to be bi has been the best decision I have ever made. Not only do I double my prospect of potential lovers, but being with another man instantly doubles my wardrobe provided they are a Large.
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I aleadry have skip. Choosing to be bi has been the best decision I have ever made. Not only do I double my prospect of potential lovers, but being with another man instantly doubles my wardrobe provided they are a Large.
been through it as well. keep your chin up and put the kids first and everything will work out for the best.
Thanks brotha
The kids are number one. No question. They are the family and that will never change. They'll learn the story one day and make up their own minds. I know my son is devastated but my daughter is too young to comprehend anything.
But god damn am I loving the free life!
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Quote Originally Posted by jmw59:
been through it as well. keep your chin up and put the kids first and everything will work out for the best.
Thanks brotha
The kids are number one. No question. They are the family and that will never change. They'll learn the story one day and make up their own minds. I know my son is devastated but my daughter is too young to comprehend anything.
I aleadry have skip. Choosing to be bi has been the best decision I have ever made. Not only do I double my prospect of potential lovers, but being with another man instantly doubles my wardrobe provided they are a Large.
That's awesome.
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Quote Originally Posted by bizkilla:
I aleadry have skip. Choosing to be bi has been the best decision I have ever made. Not only do I double my prospect of potential lovers, but being with another man instantly doubles my wardrobe provided they are a Large.
I aleadry have skip. Choosing to be bi has been the best decision I have ever made. Not only do I double my prospect of potential lovers, but being with another man instantly doubles my wardrobe provided they are a Large.
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Quote Originally Posted by bizkilla:
I aleadry have skip. Choosing to be bi has been the best decision I have ever made. Not only do I double my prospect of potential lovers, but being with another man instantly doubles my wardrobe provided they are a Large.
Appreciate it and I believe no man should be alone.
In my situation, the kids simply adore me and I think in due time they'll put the pieces of the story together and see that I was the Dark Knight. I died trying to be a hero but lived long enough to see myself a villain. But in their eyes, they'll know the truth. On days, I have them, its as if nothing else matters. That's family right there. My blood.
The ex is being torn apart. I said to myself to be civil and not to offer any kind of cold shoulder. Just no shoulder at all. Its tricky when you can foreshadow a fall but you still must find a way to help for the sake of the kids.
Tomorrow will be among the hardest days to stomach, isport. That's when the lonely factor hurts a bit. I wont even accept any invitation from friends. Going to spend it like a degenerate. I'll play football with friends in the morning as this may be among the last years of my physical ability to do so. But other than that instead of being the patriarch, I'll be grabbing takeout from Boston Market.
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Appreciate it and I believe no man should be alone.
In my situation, the kids simply adore me and I think in due time they'll put the pieces of the story together and see that I was the Dark Knight. I died trying to be a hero but lived long enough to see myself a villain. But in their eyes, they'll know the truth. On days, I have them, its as if nothing else matters. That's family right there. My blood.
The ex is being torn apart. I said to myself to be civil and not to offer any kind of cold shoulder. Just no shoulder at all. Its tricky when you can foreshadow a fall but you still must find a way to help for the sake of the kids.
Tomorrow will be among the hardest days to stomach, isport. That's when the lonely factor hurts a bit. I wont even accept any invitation from friends. Going to spend it like a degenerate. I'll play football with friends in the morning as this may be among the last years of my physical ability to do so. But other than that instead of being the patriarch, I'll be grabbing takeout from Boston Market.
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