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My son is going into his junior year of high school and he wants to quit the football team for some reason.  He's pretty non-verbal about it but my wife and I guess that he doesn't want to be a junior playing lots of JV and not much varsity.

He's an undersized kid, but he has a good heart and he could play a role on his team, which is always in the running for a state championship.  Monday is the first day of practice, and I sure don't want him to bag football....

I don't give a shit if he starts or not....I just want him to have some fun and to learn the many life lessons that come with being on a football team.  If he doesn't play, he'll just sit around the house....

Any advice, guys??  Thanks.
 
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I would not make him play. At this age, you can't force the kid to do something he doesn't want to do. Is there anything else that he is interested in? Find out what it is, and help him focus on that.
 
I understand your reasoning, believe me I have been there. But when kids hit this age they begin to understand that they are not going to make it to the next level or they have just lost interest.
 
 
 
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If he's not going to enjoy it he shouldn't play. Finding out why he has come to this decision is the most important thing. Without knowing the reasons why he wants to quit it's going to be very hard to convince him to stick with it since you don't know exactly what you are arguing for or against. Maybe ask him if he intends to play on varsity as a senior. Missing this year might hurt his chances. I'd also say to him exactly what you wrote, I don't give a shit if he starts or not....I just want him to have some fun and to learn the many life lessons that come with being on a football team. Good luck.
 
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From the time 2pm to 6pm is the time most kids get into the most trouble.  If they're aren't on a team or club they have all the free time to hang out with there friends to cause trouble. 

Your son could have found a girl that he like so being on the team isn't going to help him at all by being with her.  Who knows why he doesn't want to play, maybe he know he suck at it and why waste the time.  GL
 
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Please don't make him play if he doesnt want to .My dad was the same way when I wanted to quit football my senior year. I was a starter but played basketball and baseball also and just wanted sometime off and I liked football the least of the three. He made me keep playing football and I still regret not having more time to do things my senior year.Let him quit and get a job to get him some money or just hang out with his friends

Remember the rest of your life isnt for playing but your time in high school is
 
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Put him in openwater scuba diving class after school.
 
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talk to him and find out the reasoning
 
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Posted: #8
understand him and trust in your son i guess, it's the most you can do when they don't want to communicate with you at this time.
 
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3Ball-said a mouthful..
 
If he realizes that he can't get a college scholarship for playing , then he is smart enough (hopefully) to pursue other passions.. maybe he wants to work -or he found a girl, but I doubt that he would quit due to that ..
 
Is he withdrawing in our parts of his life ?
 
 
 
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Get this, I know a woman with two preteen boys who prefer soccer over football.

This woman's husband went to Pitt on a football scholarship. Her cousin is Peter Warrick. There is another cousin who played in the NFL for ten years.

Clearly, there is a football pedigree there. I quip that I'd sew a football to their hands and force them to love the game so they'd more likely get a free education since soccer scholarships and academic ones (they send their kids to academically-rigorous magnet schools) are more difficult to attain. She shrugs it off and I'd tell her to at least guilt her kids into playing football by saying that if they excel, they could save mama and daddy 200K by not having to pay for college.

Oh, well.

Side note. She's from the same town where Adrian McPherson is from and practically everyone can not believe what happened to him. They say he was the sweetest most cordial, humble guy with all that talent they'd ever seen. He may still be sweet and cordial, but man, did he ever tread into the dark side.
 
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Dont make him play if he doesnt want to. Try to find out what kind of sport he is interested, and support him if he wants to try that.

Even if it is figure skating or syncrom swimming
 
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14-18 are awkward yrs for kids, trying to figure out who they are
and what they want to do or be.
Use this time to be a friend and a Dad. Give advice when he asks.
 
Remember Dad, You also have 2 ears and 1 mouth..Think about it.
 
and GL Kemosabe
 
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Should not force him to play. He will hate it more.
See if he wants to do any other sports or better yet tell him he should get a job if he does not want to play sports!
You'll soon see how much he will then come back and tell you he wants to play!?
 
Whatever, I'm being a little silly BUT POINT IS NEVER FORCE A KID TO PLAY SPORTS!
If he doesn't really like it HE WILL NEVER BE GOOD AT IT 99%
OF TIME TO LET IT MAKE A DIFFERENCE ANYWAY (LIKE HAVE IT PAY FOR COLLEGE WITH A SCHOLARSHIP OR BETTER)!
 
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If he doesn't play sports, join the drama club etc....make his ass get a job.
 
 
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might as well just fit him for those ballet tights now, accept his lifestyle choice and love him as your son. 
 
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If he doesnt want to play then he probably isnt having fun
 
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I went through a similar experience except it was baseball (many years ago).  I was going to be an upperclassman playing JV and just felt like the coaches weren't giving me a fair shake.
 
I now have a saying that I (try to) live by everyday.  "Everything happens for a reason."  Lifes a whole hell of a lot easier to go through thinking this way because things don't always go your way as you and I both know.
 
I'd say have a good heart to heart with your son and if he still doesn't want to play remember "everything happens for a reason".
 
 
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Thanks so much, guys.  I'll know how this plays out tomorrow...the advice has been very helpful, and we had a good conversation today. 
 
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Quote Originally Posted by bobcat26:

If he doesn't play sports, join the drama club etc....make his ass get a job.
 

This is the right answer.  If he doesn't want to play but tell him he won't be sitting around the house doing nothing.  I would either have him get involved in another activity - maybe volunteer or something but if no activity - then he has to get a job.  sitting around the house is a big no, no.

 
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beat him senseless...football players get all the poonany
 
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He could join the glee club.

 
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He could join the glee club.

 
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Quote Originally Posted by BoBoBrazil:

Thanks so much, guys.  I'll know how this plays out tomorrow...the advice has been very helpful, and we had a good conversation today. 


good to hear
 
 
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Communication, the key to understanding...............good job, Bo, way to LISTEN
 
Good Luck to both of you in the future, whatever it holds............
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