Quote Originally Posted by scalabrine:
BB,
I'm going to be firm with you because it needs to be said.
You lack commitment. Commit to a path and that leads to certainty with regard to a choice, no matter the outcome. Certainty leads to confidence. Confidence counters anxiety and gives someone purpose. Purpose then leads to a reason to live and with purpose you wouldn't be feeling the way you are feeling.
Look at what you've done since in a mere month with regard to lack of commitment:
1) You POSTED all these great teasing opportunities with tanking teams at the end of season.
How do I know they were great? I played them and won.
Then later, you admit (and thanks for the honesty) you never played them! And if you did, they weren't for any real profit!
2) Then you say you might go all in on the Brooklyn ML in Game 3.
Do I EVER endorse doing all in all in on a huge ML. NO! But if it must be done, and I am going to discuss a pick with someone, since I had a write-up on the Brooklyn ML being very strong, if you went all in, that would be the game. I agreed with the pick.
Did you? No. And that lead you to getting involved in the game later games which cost you dearly.
3) Now I watch Thunder Grizz thinking you are all-in. The line? It was 3 for me and many others and even got to 3.5 and that would give you a profit of $0 if not a huge loss. What did you say you were going to do? Correctly go all in on the ML.
Did you? No.
Here you say you got involved with the Spurs game which I even pulled back on and that ate into your profits.
So due to lack of commitment, that's not one mistake, not two mistakes, but THREE HUGE mistakes that would have left you in a MUCH better place bankroll wise than you are now!
I'm not saying go all in on ML's with crazy bets but more commitment would be nice no?
It's like your "Covers self" is an angle on your right shoulder with regards to capped games and your "Betting self" is the devil on your left overruling all the good you can do with your bankroll. Your "Betting Self" is sabotaging you. Let your "Covers self" dominate!
I'm saying this because you should be winning a lot of money and you just aren't pulling the trigger on bets you clearly LOVE.
Scal,
The advice you give me applies to my entire life! I'm a fairly smart, talented guy and can do (and could have done) a lot more with my life if I just had a sense of purpose. Part of the reason I don't have a purpose is because I don't believe in it; or don't believe in any transcendent sense of purpose, or a transcendent meaning to "purpose." And the idea of giving myself a sense of purpose (or that we choose a purpose, so we can have a reason to go on), instead of liberating me, only cripples me. I often stop just short of success because I'm afraid of succeeding, of being happy, of finding purpose, like all the other schmucks out there that I scoff at and look down on because I see them living in a lie; a big fat lie! I know that a man must believe in something, but what? And why? These questions cling to me like the dandruff on my head and turn every possible joy (and there is no joy when there is no sense of purpose) into joylessness.
But then, there is the other angel (or "angle," ha, ha, ha, as you put it), telling me that this story I'm telling myself is also a big fat lie. And the only thing out there is a giant void that doesn't give a rat's behind what I think or anyone else thinks, and that, eventually, I must fill this void with some "purpose" (a purpose that I believe in) or die a miserable man.
Now, picture this Hamlet like character (me), trying to place a bet. Full of doubt and trepidation (To bet or not to bet, to hedge or not to hedge?) I make a choice. Then question that choice. Then question questioning that choice, and so on...
You see, my way of thinking, my skeptical disposition, if you will, works against me in the arena of gambling as much as every other arena I've ever dabbled in. I wish I was not cursed to doubt, and to question, which, ironically enough, are my biggest strengths, since I would be nowhere, intellectually, if I did not question or inquire into the nature of things. But I agree, in order to be a successful gambler you must have confidence, and there is no confidence without certainty, and no purpose without confidence. And yet, how can one ever hope to find confidence when one lacks a sense of purpose?
Thanks for the advice, friend. And I agree with you about the Clippers, this just might turn into a great opportunity for those with a sense of confidence and purpose. And the Thunder, well, they really should have lost that game. And, as you pointed out, I had so many points against this team that I actually thought they had a greater chance of losing than winning. So why did I bet, because of all the things I said before and because a part me wants to be done with this and the only way I can be done is to have no money to play with. I'm a self divided. Not committed to anyone or anything that will take away my freedom to commit to anything else I fear committing myself to; and all this from a married man!
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