I am really not sure what to do here...

     I remember when I was knee high to a grasshopper I was hanging out in this house with some of the neighbor kids.  And this girl, probably about 8 years older than me, offered me a quarter to actually kiss her dogs ass. 

     I wouldn't do it, but she kept on trying to coerce me.  I must have been like 8 years old or something, and she was probably about 16 or so.  I'm not sure, but that's best guess.

     I never did it, but I remember it still to this day.  That was probably about 35 years ago.

     She sent me a Facebook request to be her friend.  I want to just ignore it, but she probably doesn't remember it, and the odds are she would probably feel like shit if I reminded her.  I mean, she's probably not a terrible person.  Though I really have no clue as to what her character is like today.  I just don't know her as a person.  Although we grew up very close in proximity, I never talked to her that much, and never had grown to know her well at all.

     So what would you do?  Forgive and forget?  Would you remind her and laugh it off with her?  Or would you ignore her?

     This really is something I have to think about... grudges suck, but do you just let EVERYTHING roll off your back and NEVER get pissed?  It has to absurd though to hold a grudge for 35 years.  Then again, I bump into her or one of her brothers once every five years or so.  I'm not gonna keep in touch with her, so why even bother accepting her as a friend?  That said, I did accept her brother. 

     Mmmmm...

     I'm not accepting her.  I can always change my mind.  Right now though, that's my decision.  I'll ponder this more though.

Since you never did kiss the dogs ass, why are you bothered at all?

The mere fact she remembers you at all may be because she wants to apologise to you! There is no reason to hold a grudge. Hate is such a wasted emotion.

Let her be your friend (you can always cancel later) and see what happens.

Should the subject ever come up, you could always tell her how beautiful you thought she looked, and that at 8 years old, you thought she was the prettiest girl (you can lie, you were 8!), and that you probably would have done it for a kiss on the cheek.

So, you've got an older woman wanting to get in touch with a younger man. I really don't see a downside here. Besides, you know she'll tell her brother if you don't.

GL

Good points Hawk. 

I am happily engaged though.

why accept it? do you have to be "friends" with every last person you've ever met in your entire life?  she has nothing to do with your current life and shouldn't have access to information abuot your current life.  less friends on facebook, the better

This was the highlight of my day so far. Lets hope it doesnt stay that way

That's good stuff there dude.  Really good.

I decided to accept her request shortly after I read Hawks post.  And get this... for her profile pic, she has a pic of her dog

I swear it I'm not even joking!

I guess it was pretty damn dumb to even consider a grudge in this case. 

You're brilliant.  I'm surprised you're on Covers and not working on a cure for cancer.