Moving back in with the parents

hey moron,

if you get up in the morning, start applying, you will feel like you're doing something all day.  you don't have insomnia, you have something called laziness.  you're calling me an old man when you live with your parents? had a job for two years, partied, and now you're paying the piper. 

you can have any excuse you want,there is no reason on this god's green earth that a 23 year old male should be waking up at 11 am when college classes start at 8am....Go do something with your life...

not trying to be rude, just trying to put some sense into you. YOUR FATHER WILL GET OFF YOUR behind IF YOU'RE AT LEAST IN SCHOOL.

If you're not working, you should at least be in school.

You are so wrong about beatings.. I raised my son without beatings.. I slapped his butt once when he was age 2.  That's it.

The difference was that I spent most of my time with him after I got off work. I was a little league coach, with him. I'd play football with him after school. we went camping together. we bought pets for him.

I put a basketball net up for him when he was in high school. He lettered in 5 sports in high school. He played tight end, was a pitcher, played center in HS basketball, soccer, volleyball. All the while he was in the gifted program.

The problem with the whole country is with the Fathers.  Did you know that most prisoners had no father figure at home.  No love, no direction, so they hang out and get into trouble.

So it's not about beatings, it's about values.

Yours is the only situation acceptable for a grown man moving back at home. Along with a fresh college students or military person returning for a stint. While this is a temporary thing, you must deal with the conflicts in your life and use this "nagging" as motivation for you to get up and do something.

I speak from experience. I lost on a real estate investment. Bought at near the top of the market before bubble crashed and lost my townhome. Was living way beyond my means for that age, similar to you. Had to move back in. First week was cool, home cooked meals, good conversation, felt different than when being a kid. By week 3, the nagging came. I had a 9-5. But went out and got waiters gig. I went H.A.M!!!! 40+ hours at the day job. 5, sometimes 6 or more shifts at the restaurant at night. Before I knew it, I had a stack. Paid off my debts, my car note, and acquired more money. Even played poker at night. Just grinding. Even $5 buy ins at someones house. I was out in no time.

Im about to list a few occupations that  you will almost certainly acquire a job, which will become the first step to your own independence.

Deliver newspapers - they are always hiring.

Retail - While not ideal, There is ALWAYS a 'Need Help" sign somewhere in that industry.

Food Service - The world needs plenty of bartenders. Even a good waiter will make a decent living. If you work at a place that you can sell $1000 worth of product, you are almost certainly guaranteed to earn $150 or more.

Labor/Construction - My brother in law is a recovering junkie. He is a true deadbeat. But as he approaches 30 and with a child decided to get his life straight. Now he takes home a minimum of $700 a week CASH MONEY.

Drug Dealer - Different products carry and array of profit margins. There are also stiffer penalties for controlled substances. Weed, although not as profitable is your best bet. Easy going clientele to deal with.

As a father I would be so disappointed in not only my son, but myself for failing to raise a man, It would be one of my biggest failures. But you get slack right now. You lost your job, thru your fault or not. Just get back in the game and do things the right way. If you were my son and even looked at me funny I would have to show you some really tough love.

Lastly, sending out resumes over the internet is played out. That's not the way to get  job.

Okay, you've got me on the newspaper delivery. Honestly though, I know 2 guys that do it. Put it this way, you're not making a living off it but it will pay a few of your bills. Believe it or not, there are still geezers out there that want a copy of their local paper, the Journal, IBD, or whatever.

The dealing drugs part is a joke. But it doesn't have to be. Getting in the game would teach this young man some street smarts. Right now he is probably playing his X-Box wasting time. And he probably would do anything to afford the new X-Box (About $500). If he's out there hustlin' serving fiends, he's gonna be earning.

Do you have better advice?