Question for Married Guys

The two things I heard before I got married

"Don't get married" and

"If you do get married, don't have kids"

This is from my friends that got married and had kids.

I would imagine that one would start getting pretty lonely

Im happily married at 25...Obviously relationships are not perfect, your gonna argue, fight every once in awhile but thats just life

jeter and clooney

some seriously good knowledge up in here. great thread. happy to hear some of my covers crew got the true dream going on. to find the most difficult thing in life. true happiness. and thats only with the right woman. gj fellas.

just dont bring your ladies around me, ill make um think twice...

i chose wrong. found the love in a damn succubus. but mostly i cared so damn much for her lil girl and the future she wud have without me in it so i kept trying to no prevail..

I GOT FIVE ON IT -  i feel what you're saying. but loneliness is a mutha sucka. wait a few more yrs. im 35 now. i was exactly where u were mentally since i was 20. even when having friends, as u grow up, life gets lonely as sh*t.

u dont want to just have golf buddies and the occasional meaningless flings or dates that go nowhere forever. that sh*t is played out. for the young bucks.

and u never want to b the old guy at the club...

done rambling...

the only reason marriage makes any sense to me is to have kids.  but everybody is different.

i've been married for 9 years.  i had a very good run when i was single but i definitely left quite a bit on the table.  and i think about that regularly.  i would say i'm happily married, largely because i got lucky and found someone who is nice and easygoing.  if i had a wife who was controlling or jealous or generally a pain in the ass, like most people do, i'd never make it.  i'm a degenerate after all.  

 Did a couple 5 year stints...........had kids with my 1st & paid my CS dues for 16+ years (actually with kids it never ends) but they are grown & doing well. I've been single, off/on, now for 8 years & am quite content on my own. Haven't met anyone of any substance so I just carry on. Loneliness, IMO, is just a result of not being comfortable with yourself. I don't need anyone in my life for me to be at ease.

 Marriage is not a bed of roses...............but living with ANYONE 24/7 is gonna test your nerves, even if that person is your best friend. It takes patience & compromise. But if you find someone that you don't want to lose you'd better think about it.

damn, well said. now you got me back to thinking to where i was before i was dumb enuf to try love.

f*ck that bs i ranted on earlier. i want to be the old guy at the club ....

Happily married twice. 

43yrs and love it. Best woman in the world.

BTW, being married to me back when I was young and good-looking was no day at the beach.

Kids are a money pit, no thanks in that regard.

Don't you all think sex with the same person gets old after awhile?

or

Waking up to the same person gets redundant?

I don't get the whole "if you don't get married you will be lonely"

they were the best and the worst of times

It's a trade off.  There is also the confidence and trust with your spouse, and the guarantee that you're going to like what you get sexually every time.

"Oh baby, you KNOW what I like"

Not married but after 40 things start to get a little old and you focus on different things - trust me. 

All for marriage or some sort of arrangement if you have the right woman.

 

I'm 30 years old and just got married 3 weeks ago.  I got hammered 3 nights in a row for the first time in a long time this past weekend.  Two things:  First, I couldn't imagine doing that while I was 40 yrs old.  Second, I don't think I saw a single person that looked 40 where I went.  Not that I was really looking.  Point is, when people get older, going to the bar and drinking all the time gets old.  I've also been to many bars where I've seen men hanging out and drinking by themselves, and it looked lonely as hell.

And in my situation, my wife and I have traveled all over the world together.  We love to travel and want to see as many places as possible in our lifetime.  I couldn't have imagined going to the Great Wall or running with the bulls in Pamplona by myself.  Most of my friends weren't financially able to do this back then or might've not cared to go to the places I want to go.  Having a wife that enjoys alot of the same things I do makes me much happier.  She loves OU football, traveling, and is an adventurous eater like me.  Most of my friends are too big of pansies to venture into many ethnic restaurants.  I think I got it made.  Find the right girl, which isn't easy to do, and your opinion on marriage will probably change. 

grand parents happy, parents happy and everyone i know that is married is happy! woooooohoooo

I'm 26

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It's a trade off.  There is also the confidence and trust with your spouse, and the guarantee that you're going to like what you get sexually every time.

Good point. I have been with my wife for 15 years and we have a rhythm that is comfortable for both of us. When I was younger I stepped out on my wife with a couple of other chics and did not enjoy it.