Am I a hypocrite for this....

no problem, my family is still very much intact and even though some of us are far away by distance, we're all still very close.  If there's one thing i would model my parenting after how my parents ran things, it would be to let my kids learn their own lessons.  Some things must be taught, because just being instructed isn't enough.  I learned some very hard lessons, on my own, with them in my corner, and i'm a better person because of it.  Your daughters will thank you when they're grown

btw, i drank plenty when i was young, tried all the drugs too (thankfully when i was young and could afford learning experiences, not like most that are sent out on their own for the first time at 19+ when shipped away to university).  Given the opportunity to make the choice for myself and all at a young age, i got it out my system early and am not much a drinker at all these days.  my mom took a lot of heat from other family members and friends who were raising kids my age or slightly younger, and she didn't fold, and is not one to take pleasure of others pains, but those who were critical of how she raised us and the open approach to drugs/alcohol, all got sandbagged with all kinds of problems from their kids when they got a little older (and still to this day, shitty relationships inter-family, no direction, problems with drugs/alcohol, therapy, problems with the justice system,,,,,not gonna elaborate any more because it's kinda sad

 

I know the page writing is harsh but thats why I did it. So far only one of my girls has had to write one page.

That rule cut out all the cursing and yes I had to write a page once for breaking my own rule.

 

OH THIS IS A WINNER. LETS SEE MY 15 YR OLD CANT CURSE IN THE HOUSE BUT SHE CAN DO FUNNELS AND LICK SOME ASS AND BALLS WHEN HER BOYFRIEND COMES OVER. ARE YOU MENTAL PATIENT. ALLOWING YOUR 15 YR OLD TO DRINK ?

SORRY MIGHT BE A LITTLE HARSH BUT IT IS 2009 AND A 15 YR OLD CANT CURSE ? FOR CHRIST SAKE THEY FUCKING CURSE ON TV AND NOT HBO. CBS NBC AND ABC. THEY SAY STUFF ON DISNEY CHANNEL. WAKE UP PAL REALITY CHECK FOR YOU.

 

Do you know many ppl. that want to be around ladies that swear and curse.

 

I know what year this is but I want my daughters to act like ladies not sailors

 

Im trying to have an adult conversation. Please help me here

You fuckin' sick pedophile. Go get help.

I live in Amish country USA.  When Amish kids turn 16, they are allowed to participate in 'Rumspringa' which means they leave the rule of the church and experience 'the rest of the world's way of life', before deciding if they wish to join the Amish church/way of life or pass on it and live outside the church.  These kids go nuts and experiment with everything, including heavy drinking,,,,they've been doing it a long time and it works for them, and there's little problems with alcoholism in the amish community.  The Amish are a great point of reference to compare reality vs. 21st century popular culture group think.  To each his own, but i wouldn't be surprised nor deem it problematic if i had a 15 yr old daughter that wanted to experiment with alcohol,,,,i wouldn't encourage it but i'd prefer her do it under my roof then out god knows where

I would not let my 15 year old daughter try beer.

I am astonished at how misinformed people are here. It is not illegal for a 15 year old to have a beer in their own house when their legal guardian gives it to them. I am not saying I would allow this but it is not illegal and people saying contact the authorities are hilarious.

The problem arises when they start buying them beer and allowing others, who are not their children, to drink in their home. IF the child is confined to the house and it is only their child that is oding it then there is nothing the police can do, unless there is a specific law for that state saying otherwise. Also the poster didnt say he was allowing her to get smashed.

A lot of European cultures have the drinking age at 16 and it is not unusual for children as young as 12 to drink wine with dinner in Italy.

I would say you're a hypocrite if you let her drink but not smoke, because then your whole "curiousity killed the cat" M.O goes out the window. And, please... spare me the whole "smoking kills" spin on things.