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I honestly don't know where to start so I am going to just spill my heart out and tell you guys the whole story. I am in my late 20's and I live with my parents. I have no money, I am unemployed and just cant seem to get any breaks in life. I have bounced from job to job in my life despite the fact that I possess above average intelligence. I feel like I have a huge ego and that has hindered me from achieving a lot in life, and a friend of mine insists that this is the truth. I have basically alienated everyone in my life and while I do own a car, I currently have a suspended license. I have lived in several different places, different sharerentals, and always seem to end up back here with my parents, albeit usually for a short time. I have had ups and downs in gambling, but overall I have lost a ton of money despite the fact that I am very knowledgable about not only sports but casino games, but you all know how gambling works. Anyway I am lazy, I dont have many friends left, (even though I know a ton of people) and my parents and I have recently been butting heads and when that happens it is truly intolerable as I feel they become unreasonable and irrational. They were always very strict and sometimes I wonder if that is the cause of all my problems, although of course I understand I am a grown man and should be held accountable for my actions. 

Basically, I dont know what to do. I am fully capable, I just have serious issues. I don't like to be around people that much, Im kind of antisocial and like to keep to myself. I feel like I dont have much energy although I dont really feel depressed. I have a lot of regrets in life. I realize I need to get a job but my resume is a piece of shit because I dont have much longevity anywhere, even though I have had several very good jobs. I hate taking the bus anywhere. 

Thanks for reading, if you have any advice for me I would love to hear it. Let the hazing begin. 

Despite the fact you guys are all about to rip me a new one and call me a pathetic loser, I wish you all the best. 

-James T Kirk
 
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Keep at it. 
 
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What kind of advice is that dick for brains?
 
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first off stop with all the negativity and doom and gloom outlook...you are young enough to make a good life for yourself by taking the right steps and gambling money you dont have isnt one of them...work part time...and do odd jobs working for yourself...painting for people and make some cards up and pass them out to all people you know...get it done...
 
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i've always found that crystal meth helped me thru the rough times in life  
 
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1. Exercise.

2. Give gambling a break....at least until the NFL season.

3. You're at their mercy, so bite your tongue when confronted by your parents. It'll go a long way.

4. Work whatever job you can get and put your pride aside.

 
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Captain Kirk, allow me to help you find the light, young man.

You need someone to guide you, someone to lead you to the promising life that you ultimately deserve. Everyone deserves happiness, even you. There is only one way to get there.

Follow Joey03 with his gambling selections. Your happiness is simply that easy.

 
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Quote Originally Posted by The Giant:

Captain Kirk, allow me to help you find the light, young man.

You need someone to guide you, someone to lead you to the promising life that you ultimately deserve. Everyone deserves happiness, even you. There is only one way to get there.

Follow Joey03 with his gambling selections. Your happiness is simply that easy.

Ive never heard of Joey03 

 
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Quote Originally Posted by kickinA:

1. Exercise.

2. Give gambling a break....at least until the NFL season.

3. You're at their mercy, so bite your tongue when confronted by your parents. It'll go a long way.

4. Work whatever job you can get and put your pride aside.

 

This

 
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Go on a treasure hunt for Dilithium Crystals.
 
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Quote Originally Posted by sfgiantsin2010:

Ive never heard of Joey03 

 

You must be lacking happiness from your life, as well.
 
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Quote Originally Posted by JamesTKirk:

  

Thanks for reading, if you have any advice for me I would love to hear it. Let the hazing begin. 

 
-James T Kirk

Quit it with the self pity party.  Sounds like you are going through a rough time (some of which seems pretty self-inflicted).  That being said, if you are in your late 20's, you have plenty of time to turn it around.

Mentally, when you start feeling bad about yourself, you should think about all the people who have it a lot worse than you and that should put things in perspective .  You may feel like you have it pretty bad, but if you are thinking the root of your problems are "strict parents" it sounds like things haven't been all that rough.  While I don't know anything about you other than the few paragraphs you typed in this post, I would say it is very likely that there are plenty of people in this world (and in this country) who have things a lot worse than you and would give anything in the world to be in your situation.

Every day is a chance to turn things around.  If you are not happy with things, instead of sitting and feeling bad about them, and looking for advice in the penalty box of a gambling website, get off of your a$$ and fix things.  You said you don't have a lot of friends, but you "know a lot of people." Network with people you know.  See if you can build relationships with people who have similar interests as you.  Figure out what you enjoy doing, and spend more time doing it.  If you aren't willing to be proactive and make an effort, it will be hard to just stumble into friendships.  Make more of an effort, and you'd probably be surprised with the results. 

Another suggestion.  What about doing some volunteer work?  Based on your post, it seems like you have a lot of spare time. You'd be surprised how you can start doing something for other people, and how good it will make you feel.  It's also a great way to meet people.

Whatever you do, just don't sit and wallow in self pity.  By making this post, you at least seem to be self-aware, which is a good sign.  Take that self-awareness one step one step further and fix things.  Life is too short to not enjoy it.

 

 
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Quote Originally Posted by Wake2002:

Quit it with the self pity party.  Sounds like you are going through a rough time (some of which seems pretty self-inflicted).  That being said, if you are in your late 20's, you have plenty of time to turn it around.

Mentally, when you start feeling bad about yourself, you should think about all the people who have it a lot worse than you and that should put things in perspective .  You may feel like you have it pretty bad, but if you are thinking the root of your problems are "strict parents" it sounds like things haven't been all that rough.  While I don't know anything about you other than the few paragraphs you typed in this post, I would say it is very likely that there are plenty of people in this world (and in this country) who have things a lot worse than you and would give anything in the world to be in your situation.

Every day is a chance to turn things around.  If you are not happy with things, instead of sitting and feeling bad about them, and looking for advice in the penalty box of a gambling website, get off of your a$$ and fix things.  You said you don't have a lot of friends, but you "know a lot of people." Network with people you know.  See if you can build relationships with people who have similar interests as you.  Figure out what you enjoy doing, and spend more time doing it.  If you aren't willing to be proactive and make an effort, it will be hard to just stumble into friendships.  Make more of an effort, and you'd probably be surprised with the results. 

Another suggestion.  What about doing some volunteer work?  Based on your post, it seems like you have a lot of spare time. You'd be surprised how you can start doing something for other people, and how good it will make you feel.  It's also a great way to meet people.

Whatever you do, just don't sit and wallow in self pity.  By making this post, you at least seem to be self-aware, which is a good sign.  Take that self-awareness one step one step further and fix things.  Life is too short to not enjoy it.

 

 

 
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No rule saying you have to put every job on your resume so that it looks like a laundry list

If you have a temp agency close by, consider signing up with them

Don't stay up late. Try and get up the same time every day, as if you would when you are going to work

Forget the gambling, you need some coin coming in

 
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I think you are a candidate for the "Straight Edge Society."

 
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Go see your doctor and see if you have any medical issue`s like depression. If so take the meds and get out of your funk. Sorry but jobs in California are hard to come by. If you don`t like working WITH people get a job in a Call Center. That way you don`t have to see people but you do have to talk to them. But never give up. 10 years ago I was out of work for three years due to 4 knee surgerys. Was looking at nothing, but got better and got in shape. I now have a great career and married a girl 19 years younger than me.  
 
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Quote Originally Posted by Kurshka:

Go see your doctor and see if you have any medical issue`s like depression. If so take the meds and get out of your funk. Sorry but jobs in California are hard to come by. If you don`t like working WITH people get a job in a Call Center. That way you don`t have to see people but you do have to talk to them. But never give up. 10 years ago I was out of work for three years due to 4 knee surgerys. Was looking at nothing, but got better and got in shape. I now have a great career and married a girl 19 years younger than me.  

WTF she is young enough to be your daughter, you sick fuck

 

 
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Consider doing some volunteer work locally. You'll feel better about yourself and it will look good on the resume. If you've traveled abroad or have an interest, the Peace Corp may be an option. In that vein, teaching English abroad is something you may consider. There is considerable demand in Asia. The pay is reasonable and you will return with a new perspective on life. PM me if you'd like more info on that.

You are also young enough that returning to school is a possibility. If you further your education, the previous jobs will hold less emphasis.

As others have suggested, stay as active as possible. Your parents will be supportive if they see you trying your hardest. I am positive they have high hopes for you and your stagnation is as painful for them as it is for you.

I would try to stay away from the medication if at all possible, though speaking to a counselor is a good idea.
 
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Quote Originally Posted by JamesTKirk:

I honestly don't know where to start so I am going to just spill my heart out and tell you guys the whole story. I am in my late 20's and I live with my parents. I have no money, I am unemployed and just cant seem to get any breaks in life. I have bounced from job to job in my life despite the fact that I possess above average intelligence. I feel like I have a huge ego and that has hindered me from achieving a lot in life, and a friend of mine insists that this is the truth. I have basically alienated everyone in my life and while I do own a car, I currently have a suspended license. I have lived in several different places, different sharerentals, and always seem to end up back here with my parents, albeit usually for a short time. I have had ups and downs in gambling, but overall I have lost a ton of money despite the fact that I am very knowledgable about not only sports but casino games, but you all know how gambling works. Anyway I am lazy, I dont have many friends left, (even though I know a ton of people) and my parents and I have recently been butting heads and when that happens it is truly intolerable as I feel they become unreasonable and irrational. They were always very strict and sometimes I wonder if that is the cause of all my problems, although of course I understand I am a grown man and should be held accountable for my actions. 

Basically, I dont know what to do. I am fully capable, I just have serious issues. I don't like to be around people that much, Im kind of antisocial and like to keep to myself. I feel like I dont have much energy although I dont really feel depressed. I have a lot of regrets in life. I realize I need to get a job but my resume is a piece of shit because I dont have much longevity anywhere, even though I have had several very good jobs. I hate taking the bus anywhere. 

Thanks for reading, if you have any advice for me I would love to hear it. Let the hazing begin. 

Despite the fact you guys are all about to rip me a new one and call me a pathetic loser, I wish you all the best. 

-James T Kirk

IM actually contemplating suicide just after reading this head on collision which has been your life. Dude heres what you do . You look at yourself in the mirror(i understand your probally not as attractive and overall strong and lethal as me) but still look at yourself and say to yoursellf... shit could be a lot worse and a lot harder. YOu got this man your gonna be alright. Stay away form nerdy stuff like your screenname because they are vagina repellants. Exercise. Get a job... any job... something to occupy your time. You prolly even have a small dick also but you know waht man.. who cares I think your gonna be alright bud

 
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Quote Originally Posted by esplanade:

Consider doing some volunteer work locally. You'll feel better about yourself and it will look good on the resume. If you've traveled abroad or have an interest, the Peace Corp may be an option. In that vein, teaching English abroad is something you may consider. There is considerable demand in Asia. The pay is reasonable and you will return with a new perspective on life. PM me if you'd like more info on that.

You are also young enough that returning to school is a possibility. If you further your education, the previous jobs will hold less emphasis.

As others have suggested, stay as active as possible. Your parents will be supportive if they see you trying your hardest. I am positive they have high hopes for you and your stagnation is as painful for them as it is for you.

I would try to stay away from the medication if at all possible, though speaking to a counselor is a good idea.

 

Hey ESP, I just got back from Thailand, I would love to Teach Engllsh Abroad, what info could you tell me about that? 

 
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Quote Originally Posted by saintsfan504:

WTF she is young enough to be your daughter, you sick fuck

 

 

 

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Join the military... they are hiring. No Joke. If you have half a brain and get a high score on the entrance exam you can choose what job you want in the Army.

I served 3 active in the 80's... reserves in the 80's and 90's.

I tried to get back in in early 2009 and had to retest. I scored in the top 1% and could have had anything going back in... but still needed to lose about 5lbs and at least an inch off my waist... then BAM... fucked up my back working out.

I had quit smoking, lost 30 lbs and almost got back in with a full time reserve job at age 46. Had I not hurt my back I would have been good to go.

Since then I returned to my Repo job and have now left that due to the extremely shitty company. If not for my wife having such a great job I'd be screwed. I've been outta work for 16 of the last 28 months with NO unemployment. I always get interviews and callbacks but never that final job offer.

Now I'm 48 and very depressed since finding a job has become extremely difficult.

If they would let me I'd go back in the Army and straight to Afganistan. I think I might be too old now.

I'm between a rock and a hard place myself... but for you my advise is JOIN the MILITARY and take advantage of EVERYTHING they can offer. Stick it out for a few years and then go from there. DONT blow your money in there. BANK it for when you get out.

 
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Kool just logged on to check if my post was still the best advice.

 
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Didnt OP say he was in his late 20's? Isnt that too old to join the army?
 
 
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Quote Originally Posted by sfgiantsin2010:

Didnt OP say he was in his late 20's? Isnt that too old to join the army?


Absolutely not. Read Skubi's post.
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