Girl A, B or neither?

Question

Since I have seen some chick topics, I have a situation.

Girl A: Divorced, 3 kids, a rocket, funny, 3 yrs older, own home. Lot of guys hit on her, has an impatient problem. We were together for 2yrs, stopped for a year as I was at a cross roads with my career and chose my career over us.

Girl B: never married, no kids, sexy, 8 yrs younger, lives at home, no career drive, a little boring, but a great woman to marry and have kids with. She's a bit of a diva, asks stupid questions like "don't you miss me" etc, drives me nuts.

I'm 36, career is set, own home, two side businesses, above avg looks wise, no problem meeting woman, funny, easy going, can be an ass lol.

So my question.

1. Do I go back to the ex? I don't care about the 3 kids, we've been talking and she understands what happened. She loves me to death, like no other has ever.

2. Do I make the safe choice and look to grow something with the "check list" girl, except for her career (she basically wants to get married one day and have kids).

3. Do I walk away from both and look elsewhere?

Personally, I'd love to get married one day, I'm 36, but don't care about having children, love children, but don't care if I have any.

Let's hear it covers brothers....give me what you got!

Thanks
FT

FrozenTundra · Answer

Since I have seen some chick topics, I have a situation.

Girl A: Divorced, 3 kids, a rocket, funny, 3 yrs older, own home. Lot of guys hit on her, has an impatient problem. We were together for 2yrs, stopped for a year as I was at a cross roads with my career and chose my career over us.

Girl B: never married, no kids, sexy, 8 yrs younger, lives at home, no career drive, a little boring, but a great woman to marry and have kids with. She's a bit of a diva, asks stupid questions like "don't you miss me" etc, drives me nuts.

I'm 36, career is set, own home, two side businesses, above avg looks wise, no problem meeting woman, funny, easy going, can be an ass lol.

So my question.

1. Do I go back to the ex? I don't care about the 3 kids, we've been talking and she understands what happened. She loves me to death, like no other has ever.

2. Do I make the safe choice and look to grow something with the "check list" girl, except for her career (she basically wants to get married one day and have kids).

3. Do I walk away from both and look elsewhere?

Personally, I'd love to get married one day, I'm 36, but don't care about having children, love children, but don't care if I have any.

Let's hear it covers brothers....give me what you got!

Thanks
FT

Spitfire15 · Answer

Growing with girl B, choice number 2, is not an option. She drives you nuts and your thinking that you are at a point in your life where marriage is within reach. Don't start dating her and get serious when you know she can't be a wife to you without being miserable.

Girl B is out.

When you say 'you dont care about the kids' what do you mean... if you can be a real father to these kids and you think you can make them come around so that they can accept you as a fatherly figure, it sounds like she's a good girl. Impatient is the worst knock against her (aside from kids), that's a hell of a woman, and she's crazy about you.

Take the mom or keep looking, you have to make that choice.

My work here is done. Spit one five has spoken.

Mako77 · Answer

Marriage is overrated - go for A&#xD;&#xA;Reason I like A = funny ...if she has a sense of humor it will last. I can only speak for myself, but being with a woman without a sense of humor is awful.&#xD;&#xA;Chick B may be a great catch, who knows, but you said " a little boring" - sex can only do so much - she will only get more boring after you blow your load&#xD;&#xA;If the question is who should I bang and not feel bad about bailing on, I&#x27;d say B, but I doubt you&#x27;d start this thread if you were asking which vagina to stick.

Spitfire15 · Answer

And girl A without a serious relationship is out, because she is a mother...

on second thought, you could talk to her and maybe she'd love to just have you on the side... don't have to get the kids involved and complicate things, maybe she doesn't want to deal with all that. Maybe you can get the best of both worlds.

SPITFIRE HAS SPOKEN!! GIT EM!

FrozenTundra · Answer

sweet advice so far! Girl A&#x27;s kids love me and when we ended it, it really hurt them.  I think if I chose Girl A, she&#x27;ll want a commitment as she wants to know I&#x27;m serious, she&#x27;s said this already. I have tried hard to really fall for Girl B, but not happening. So far Girl A - 2, Girl B - 0, Be Solo - 0Keep&#x27;em coming and really appreciate the solid input.

Mako77 · Answer

Dude - it&#x27;s either girl A or keep looking. Who in their right mind would tell you to pursue a relationship with a diva that has no career drive. Fine if she&#x27;s not married at 28 and has no kids, but wtf is she waiting for? She&#x27;s looking for a sugar-daddy IMO. &#xD;&#xA;Sexy is great, but it lasts only so long. Try to put it in her ass and wait for her to stop calling after. If she calls back, try putting it in her ass again - rinse and repeat.&#xD;&#xA;Eventually you will either penetrate her ass or be rid of her ...a win-win.&#xD;&#xA;BOL

Spitfire15 · Answer

Tundra, if you can actually see yourself committing to A long-term, I say lock it up. I can't say I've ever had a girlfriend that I would want to marry, they are hard to find. She sounds like she's in demand, if you think you want it and don't go take it someone else will and she might be crazy about him.

UberDog · Answer

Drop B. Keep A on the line while you fish for C.&#xD;&#xA;If you really wanted either of them, you wouldn&#x27;t be looking for advice here. You&#x27;d already know without asking.

FrozenTundra · Answer

Shit Mako77, you&#x27;re opening my eyes. I am also making her sound shallow, she doesn&#x27;t give a shit about money, she just wants love, issue is, don&#x27;t think I can give her that w/o me being successful and if she&#x27;s lazy, it&#x27;ll drive me nuts.  On NYE she says to me while we&#x27;re drunk "you know you deserve better than me." ...who the fuck says that to you?Girl A or solo....seems like the smart two choices left.

FrozenTundra · Answer

Damn you UberDog...lol. True, but I&#x27;m just a pig at times, may be time to grow up and take life down a different road.Spitfire15: you&#x27;ve earned respect for your genuine answers, thanks man!

JD232 · Answer

[Quote: Originally Posted by UberDog]&#xD;&#xA;If you really wanted either of them, you wouldn&#x27;t be looking for advice here. You&#x27;d already know without asking.  [/Quote]

Jaysvdubwhat · Answer

girl a

amd · Answer

A

FrozenTundra · Answer

thanks for the thoughts guys, keep&#x27;em coming...

misfits · Answer

no way to A who the fuck wants someone elses 3 kids?  i dont care how cool they are, that shit is  way too much baggage/responsibility

Dsvette76 · Answer

C

Skipbone · Answer

D...or double D

SteelCash · Answer

Put a gun to your head if you have to choose between those two.    My answer, for what it&#x27;s worth, is neither.  Look for something better out there.  There&#x27;s a lot of &#x27;em out there.

SteelCash · Answer

3

Hank55 · Answer

SCREW BOTH AND DON&#x27;T SIGN ANYTHING. DON&#x27;T LET EITHER USE YOUR LAST NAME FOR ANYTHING. THAT CONSTITUTES COMMON LAW MARRIAGE AND THEN YOU HAVE TO GET A DIVORCE. YOU COULD TURN OUT TO BE A BIGAMIST AND NOT KNOW IT. AFTER 6 MONTHS CHOSE THE ONE THAT IS STILL HAVING SEX WITH YOU WITHOUT YOUR REQUEST. GOOD LUCK.

Bluefin · Answer

You sound like the bachelor with two to choose from..

Sounds to me like you don't deserve girl A...any women that puts her kids at risk with a relationship and gets dumped and still wants more sounds pretty good as a life mate to me and if she is funny and really loves you and you love her kids Whats the problem...it's you bro!

Stop being a spoiled little brat and do the right thing..

Look for a girl that has you as one of two choices and let her make the decision for you...

KOAJ · Answer

i think we need pics to further this discussion

HutchEmAll · Answer

[Quote: Originally Posted by UberDog]  Drop B. Keep A on the line while you fish for C.&#xD;&#xA;If you really wanted either of them, you wouldn&#x27;t be looking for advice here. You&#x27;d already know without asking.  [/Quote]Spot on.  B is not even open for discussion.  That will never last. Boring = disaster long term.  Sounds like you have a strong career drive.  Hers is nil.  TERRIBLE combination.  I&#x27;ve seen that first hand. The reason I&#x27;d probably not go back to A is because to make that work long term, you&#x27;d better be WAY into her kids.  Being indifferent will NOT work long term.  It&#x27;s either all in or nothing.  I have a buddy who is dating a gal with 2 kids.  He treats them like his own and they do quite well.  If you&#x27;re not prepared to do that, move along (although there is nothing long with spending time with her as long as she knows what you&#x27;re thinking).

ApacheM · Answer

Let your conscience be your guide.

robertelee · Answer

Flip a coin between a and b and when its in the air you will know what one you truly want.

Girl A, B or neither?

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