Quote Originally Posted by CMo256:
Well I am sorry to hear that, but why exactly do you feel like sharing that with some random degenerate gamblers over the internet?
my mother is very sick as well so i feel like i have the capacity to answer this question....
my natural inclination is to call you out on being an ass who feels the need to make some idiotic point rather than simply sending your best to someone who is in pain. but instead, i'll just answer.
when a relative, especially one within your immediate family becomes very ill, terminally ill, one's sense of equilibrium, of what is natural and right in the world is unhinged. if you are close with your family, they are your back, your granite in a life where nothing is easy, i don't care who you are. there is a feeling of loss, even before the actual passing, a feeling like everything you thought you knew has somehow become questioned.
what makes this more difficult is that if your friends know you are going through this, hopefully they will be there for you, to lend a needed shoulder, to comfort you and try their best to fill in for this huge missing piece. however, when you talk too much about this pain, your identity becomes this pain. whether true or not, you feel as if you are burdening your friends with your stress, you don't want it to define your relationship.
but there is something unique about a chat room such as this... although nameless and faceless, these are people that many on here "talk" with more than their own friends. games are played daily and whether for money making, pure fun, etc, many come on this site daily to talk. here you can air anything you would like without having to feel judged in your "real" life. plus, writing is cathartic, to write is many time more personal than to talk.
i don't know about anyone else, but when outlaw passed, even though i rarely write on this forum, even though i know nothing about him, i felt pain for him. when apache's wife was in the hospital, fighting for her life, i felt pain for him after being married for so many years. i feel like i have formed an identity for certain cappers on here who contribute daily, kgc, unc, etc and it doesn't matter if they know me or not. it is community.
i know this is long winded, but felt like I could add. sometimes, all we need is someone to say, "everything will be okay with time", "i understand what you are going through and if i can help, please let me know", "i am thinking about you, even if i am just one nameless, faceless person".
raging, i have not felt the actual loss yet, but i give you my most sincere condolences, my heartfelt sympathy, and my assurance, all pain fades with time. keep your head up as best you can, that huge whole in the universe can't be filled, but it can be remembered.