getting dumped....how did you get over it?

POST HER FACEBOOK, LETS SEE A PICTURE OF THIS BROAD AND SEE IF SHE IS EVEN WORTH THE AGGRAVATION

DO NOT call a prostitute from an ad or craigslist for Christsake

Realized there are over 3 billion other women in the world and got over it.

Life is too short (and our good sex lives even shorter) to be hung up on one piece of ass.

Sorry to hear.

I would listen to what she has to say tonight.  It will probably be a bunch of BS, but whatever.  If her mind is made up make sure you let her know you only breakup once.  2-1 that she parties for the next couple months.  Once that gets old, summers over, and Chicago gets a little colder that first "how are you" text message rolls in, then game on she has her winter Phoenix BF/retreat back, bang next June the bitch dumps you again.

Most chicks are manipulative bitches who will work the system regardless of who they leave in their wake.

Now if it is over for good tonight then you should go slumpbusting, rather you need to go slumpbusting, fuck it, you owe it to us to go out slumpbusting.

I want a slumpbusting play by play report by Monday, Messier.

If u want her bad enough move to Chi-town or stop whining...

Best thing that ever happened to me was getting left. Now I'm dialed in to making money and hitting the gym. My motivation to make myself a success is at an all-time high. 

 It's brutal..........one of the hardest things to deal with in life. But it's happened to all of us, sometimes more than once.........& all of the shit like "there's plenty of fish in the sea" & "time will heal the wounds", etc. don't ever seem to help at 1st.

 Don't drink & dial........never works, only makes you smack yourself in the head the next day.
 Don't go off the deep end with gambling, drinking, drugs........doesn't work.
 Don't try to replace her right away........sure, go get laid if you have a port in the storm available but don't jump into another gig because you feel alone.
 Go hang with the bros.....talk about it with them...........it helps..........& hitting the gym worked for me.

 Remember.....it wasn't your choice it was hers (I know, that only makes you feel worse) & there's NOTHING you can do about her decision.

 GL bro......we've all been hurt & we've all recovered & moved on.......you will too.

 

maybe so, but they are indeed the truth

The cliche "time heals all wounds" like kapono said is true man,,

It'll be rough the next few weeks, months,,, hopefully not years,,

But strangely enough I had a similiar situation where at the time I was living in NY and she was in Oregon,,, and it was tough we had been together for a little bit more than a year,, I ended up not calling her because I didn't want to lose my mind and continue thinking their was hope,, There does come a time where you have to move on,, You don't want to try and contact her obsessively. In my situation I ended not being able to be friends,,, I simply couldn't just be friends with her,,

And it was the only time I had ever been dumped but,, I'd recommend trying to keep busy and staying outside of your house. Find stuff to do that does not involve just yourself,,,
 
Of course exercising is always great but crap like going to events with other people outside of your house,,,

You just don't want to end up sitting in your house watching tv on your coach eating Chinese food every day,,

From one rangers fan to another,, I can say I feel your pain bro.. You'll get over it eventually

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Don't call her...ever again!!!

Pretend she is dead!!!!  

if you do that, you will be dating girls by the end of the summer.

if u don't listen to me, you will be a depressed, snivelling box.

hopefully you dont call her, ansewr her calls...no contact what so ever....its hard, but its the only thing you can do.

wait 6 weeks...go on an internet dating site...you will get plenty of dates.  who needs a  long distance relationship anyway?  its stupid....as of now...she's dead.  Fuck her, breaking up with you...mourn for a week...get some new clothes, haircut...get back on your game...youre too good for her

This is what will work 100%

 Absolutely.........I agree. I just remember hearing all the comfort phrases when I got dumped by my HS sweetheart & thinking "I don't have time & I don't want anyone else....I want HER!"

 Sure enough, there were many more down the road.

mess-

just got done dealin with this bs situation. 

watch forgetting sarah marshall. you sound like a cat that f*cking another kitty cat may cause a negative effect. i tried. it did and didnt help. makes you actually think and miss your old p*ssy more. go figure...

  and holy sh*t do not sports wager. just flush your money down the toilet, it'll be quicker. i failed miserably trying to take my mind off of it. now im actually thinking about looking for a new occupation when wagering used to be my personal 401k. fucking females. they are the worst!

jogging walking excercise is a great stress release! do it. do it now. run to da choppa billie!!

 if ya got to sulk. do it. but dont have it control you. then she is winning! and f that!

if ya drink, turn off your phone and leave it somewhere.

  but to not have the horrible thoughts of her sucking and f*cking another d*ck is tough.  plus if your lady is a freak to you, you know she's a freak to any other d*ck she's with.

  covers helped me a lil.  proto particularly. thats when i jumped on this bs and started rappin with the covers crew. shootin the dirt helped. whatever keeps your mind occupied homey and not thinkin of her gobblin up some man meat...

and mess...sorry homie but... 

...she has already. dont let your heart get in the way of your brain when she calls. 

*** vast majority of females have no common sense

gl

 

 

Thanks guys  this drama has certainly motivated me to hit the gym though. Have already been twice today. Thats twice more then I've been all month

Not EVER talking to her again-or any form of communication-is 100% correct. Wish her the best & move on with your own life.

Dumb dumb dumb.

My wife of 10 yrs just told me this week that she is not sure if I am the one for her and feeling disconnected. We have two kids 8 and 5. She needs space to think..blah blah blah. She has soeone else is the obvious conclusion. Not that simple.

It crushed me to pieces especially when I think about my boys. But I have to be strong. I am booking a trip to Vietnam and Thailand for myself to give her the space she is asking.

Be strong brother. We will get through it.

Time to man up drop her ass and move on. For all you know you are missing out on someone way better.

 

Having kids with somebody who wants time off/space/whatever is a whole different ballgame..........good luck

 

 

messier..you aint married...stfu and move on...and the dude that is married and has a wife that wants to be person...thats about time to kick that skank to the curb...

I know it's different but it's feeling like getting dumped becasue it could end in divorce. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy.

Am I over reacting here guys? Please say so if I am. I can use some advice too.

Don't worry Messier, this same shit happened to me a few months ago. My GF of 2 1/2 years dumped me out of the blue and said it has been building up and she has been bringing it up to me. Apparently her idea of "bringing it up to me" was an argument we had in bed at 5 in the morning on New Years Eve and it was because I was hesitant to marry her since I wanted to live together first. Guess that makes me the bad guy haha.

Anyways here is my advice;

- "Pretend she is dead" ; I agree with this advice, I do not call or communicate with her and it pisses her off. I know this because my buddies fiance occasionally hangs out with her and my ex told her she was upset I have not called her and my ex also asks about me too. You have no idea how great this made me feel. I am actually looking forward to their wedding where I can completely ignore her and hopefully bang one of the bridesmaids.

- "Don't be alone" ; This is where your friends earn their keep. Since the break I have been hanging out with my friends a ton. I can't believe how much time my relationship took from my friends. Now I go out get drunk, hit on bartenders/waitresses, it's great!

- "Go on some dates" ; I have been on two dates and both were bad and in fact one was so bad that I even posted about it in the thread "online dating" but nevertheless it gets you back in the saddle and makes you realize that there are plenty of women are out there and there is no sense in worrying about the one women who no longer loves you.

Also, be prepared for her to try and play mind games with you. My ex posted a pic of flowers on facebook and said; "flowers so random", don't play into her hand just ignore and continue to think she is dead. She is just baiting you.

Just be a good man about it, don't post some sappy crap on FB or let her know you're down. DON'T GIVE HER ANY MESSAGE/IDEA THAT YOU MISS HER OR NEED HER BACK. She is gone and you're a better man for it!

This is one of the many reasons why we have family and friends. Life is full of ups and downs and we need our family and friends to help us back up. Besides you also have us. Just look at how many people responded with great advice. Plenty of us have been there and are willing to help you out.

 

I was saying its different, because I think its worse..........sure, it sucks the way you feel no matter if you have kids or not.....but you can get over a girlfriend (or somebody you don't have kids with)........its much harder in your case IMO because you still have to keep in contact with her

My advice is somewhat the same as with Messier's advice (time heals, other women).....but you have to keep things civil for the kids........the last thing they need is constant fighting and for their parents to hate each other

Get some ripped abs some arnold pecs and show em off at the clubs then you get to treat women like shit.  In fact they will fight to be your juice dumpster.